{"id":112,"date":"2010-02-21T21:14:34","date_gmt":"2010-02-22T05:14:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/?p=112"},"modified":"2010-04-05T10:42:20","modified_gmt":"2010-04-05T18:42:20","slug":"the-parallel-life-unlived","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/?p=112","title":{"rendered":"The Parallel Life … Unlived"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the things that frustrates us, especially as we get older, is the unlived parallel life.\u00a0 At virtually every turn, we have opportunities for our lives to head in a certain direction, but we only seem to be able to follow and participate in just one of these threads.\u00a0 In imaginative fiction as well as in imaginative science<\/a> there is this recurring idea of a multitude of existing realities unfolding at every turn as we meander along our ant-like circuitous routes to nowhere, or wherever it is we think we are going.\u00a0 It boggles our little minds to think about it, because there just seems to be way too many opportunities for a turn — more than we can possibly imagine.\u00a0 I step in front of traffic, or I don’t.\u00a0 If I live in Manhattan, that choice exists fifty times a day.\u00a0 And there are 8 million of me in that little strip of land.\u00a0 So it just seems too silly to contemplate.<\/p>\n

But what are the real-life implications of being aware of the limitation<\/strong><\/em> of following just a single thread?\u00a0 That’s it exactly — we limit our behavior.\u00a0 After all, we have only so much we can do, and once we get past a certain age … well, it just gets to be too much to imagine.\u00a0 We are already so far down a path … why bother.\u00a0 Here’s just one …<\/p>\n

“You are in line at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in NYC at 10:15 AM.\u00a0 The place opens at 10:30, but there is a popular show there, so the line stretches like a snake almost through the glass doors.\u00a0 You just wait, and play with whatever small square electronic box you carry around with you to kill the time and provide distraction.\u00a0 Today, however, a spectacular woman appears behind you in the line — couldn’t be a day over 24.\u00a0 Your heart stops for a moment, and the phone rings.\u00a0 You take it, and it’s a lengthy discussion wherein you are able to somehow display you intellectual prowess, and perhaps a little wit.\u00a0 What luck.\u00a0 After the call, you quite casually twist 30 degrees and mention something about the line.\u00a0 A huge smile is what you get back, and some kind of South American accent.\u00a0 What country?\u00a0 Venezuela.\u00a0 Of course.\u00a0 Happens you were there — yes, just before Chavez was elected.\u00a0 She is studying politics in Madrid precisely because of Chavez.\u00a0 She is both impossibly beautiful, friendly, and intelligent all at once.\u00a0 Within fifteen minutes you realize that this would be one of those critical moments in your life … 20 years ago, anyway.\u00a0 But not now.\u00a0 When you both get your tickets, together, and step up toward the escalator, she turns to you helplessly, and shrugs with the map.\u00a0 She wants a guide, or she likes you, or both.\u00a0 But it doesn’t matter, at this point, because you know you cannot go down the path that is presented.\u00a0 Surely, it would be an enjoyable day, but what more would it do but remind you that when you were twenty-five you never placed yourself in a position of meeting a Venezuelan heiress studying in Madrid, and so you could not have followed such a path.\u00a0 Instead, you are on the path that has taken you here — and of course there is nothing whatever wrong with where and what you are now — it is full of love and life and happiness most of the time — but hey, I don’t care how happy you are every minute of the day, you must admit that it’s a bit frustrating and sad that our lives on this planet seem so limited, so structured, and so … finite.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, yes, I know there is beauty everywhere.\u00a0 I also know that it is a supreme act of selfishness to view the outside world solely as it relates to ME, and it is certainly somewhat pathetic that I would deny myself a fine afternoon with a lovely person only because I’m a little sad that I’m not longer as young as I once was … but this transition from youth to middle age, and then through the belly of the beast itself as our hormones gradually begin to turn off like someone slowly cranking a rusted pump wheel … well, it’s tough.\u00a0 I remember once in Woodstock, when my father was close to the end of his life, and we found ourselves at the Woodstock theater, waiting on line (again, with the lines! We should never complain about them …) and there was this very attractive woman in her fifties. maybe, staring at us in a friendly, open way.\u00a0 I never saw my father so flustered.\u00a0 Later , he turned sad, especially when I pressed him to step up and make some kind contact.\u00a0 He was too far down his own path, and despite the fact that my mother had been gone for years, he couldn’t begin to imagine the possibilities.\u00a0\u00a0 It is what we do, I suppose.<\/p>\n

When I was a lot younger I used to imagine all kinds of spiritual possibilities — like wouldn’t it be great if our “higher being,” as it were, was very much like a genius chess grandmaster, walking back and forth along a fifty-foot table against 20 players, managing 20 games at once?\u00a0 With this, idea, what the kernel of our selves REALLY did was simply to manage all of these lives, or at least stay aware of them, guiding us along our paths like so many wayward sheep, all with the intention of learning and evolving, heading toward some higher plane of awareness.\u00a0 Or, maybe it’s just a series of games, and the multitude of parallel lives we live are nothing more than an elaborate series of very interesting games played by some celestial race that we used to call Gods, but have lost our belief and in some cases, our need of them.<\/p>\n

Anyway, that’s one idea, toward the middle of one life, on one single wayward path that has been followed for almost half a century.\u00a0\u00a0 It’s hard to reconcile all of the effort we expend in order to make sense and attempt to validate this one little thread that we have spun, if it’s true that there may be so many more that we are responsible for.\u00a0 Just think of Proust<\/a>, who lay in bed for years in an effort to Remember everything he could in his short life.\u00a0 A heroic effort, to be sure, and worth it, I suppose, since he did produce something that outlasted him for going on a hundred years now. But think of the efficiency that we now have to emulate and extend this idea:<\/p>\n

Technology is leading us toward the broadcasting of our every waking moment.\u00a0 Twitter is the nascent beginning of a sort of Public Narcissism<\/a> that will completely take us over within five years.\u00a0 Mark these words — just a few years, people who are truly hooked into the “cloud” will wear devices or perhaps clothes that record every moment and will upload a constant “stream.”\u00a0 People will choose to follow that stream or other streams.\u00a0 Those will be the reality streams, which might get pretty mundane and boring, although we shouldn’t underestimate the capacity for humans to engage in all forms of voyeurism — they have proven that much with reality television — but perhaps more popular will be the fantasy streams, once we figure out how to create avatars and realities that might have been, and push them out into the cloud like so many errant children — lives to be lived and watched any time we choose to hook into them.\u00a0 In that case, perhaps one of my sons will move to Madrid with a Venezuelan heiress, as well as raise eleven children on a farm in Idaho, work for thirty years in Patagonia as a geologist, and spend another life traveling the world as a member of Cirque du Soleil.\u00a0\u00a0 Maybe instead of immortality, humans will be content with living a dozen lives all at the same time.<\/p>\n

Wouldn’t be so bad, I think.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Yes, yes, I know there is beauty everywhere. I also know that it is a supreme act of selfishness to view the outside world solely as it relates to ME, and it is certainly somewhat pathetic that I would deny myself a fine afternoon with a lovely person only because I’m a little sad that I’m not longer as young as I once was … but this transition from youth to middle age, and then through the belly of the beast itself as our hormones gradually begin to turn off like someone slowly cranking a rusted pump wheel … well, it’s tough.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=112"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":233,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112\/revisions\/233"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=112"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=112"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.owenscott.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=112"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}